I saw this book mentioned numerous time on Dear Author as a must read for erotic romance. And since I'm not a huge fan of E.R., I like romance with some sex but I don't care for tons of gratuitous sex, I thought I'd give it a try.
Well, it's a well written, rather expensive book that reads like an old skool romance in some ways with an older, wealthy heroine who is all buttoned down and a hot hunk who is all sexy and she wants some wild and he's attracted and you know...
The truth is, the story was fine because it was well written. But the sex bored me to tears quite frankly and for $7 for an ebook, I was slightly disappointed.
The sex was integral since it moved the relationship and the heroine grew from it but well... sex and then sex and some more sex and ah baby ah, I miss my $7.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Rimming
I know this is a very strange blog topic but let me explain...
I love getting emails from Goodreads that tells me what people are reading, how they rated or reviewed it. I've found some new authors that way and have read some really good reviews.
But the other day I read a review from Goodreads by a popular blogger who gave a DNF (I think it was a DNF) to a book because it contained a rimming scene and then the couple kissed, She was disgusted. She felt the couple should have brushed their teeth or something.
So here's the thing...
Rimming is the act of licking/eating out a person's anus. It is something that generally is gay male preferred (sorry, I only am aware personally of gay men in real life enjoying this)(there might be straight people who like it but I've never met any).
So I went to some gay friends and asked "Have you ever kissed someone after rimming them, or been kissed by someone after being rimmed and did you make them clean their mouth first?" I asked multiple men. The answers were the same: kissing after rimming is normal and acceptable.
Nobody rims a dirty asshole. Showers and cleanliness are de rigeur. If a fella smells funkiness down there, no tongues are going to go visiting. Therefore everything is clean, kisses are cool and one should understand the sexual practice before judging it.
I know it's weird that I was bothered by that review. But it just felt so wrong to me because if you don't mind the idea of the sexual practice, understand it before you get upset by an aspect that you're clearly wrong about.
And on a personal note.... ewwwwww to the whole thing anyway. More power and pleasure to those who enjoy it but I'll take a nice vanilla cone for my tongue instead.
I love getting emails from Goodreads that tells me what people are reading, how they rated or reviewed it. I've found some new authors that way and have read some really good reviews.
But the other day I read a review from Goodreads by a popular blogger who gave a DNF (I think it was a DNF) to a book because it contained a rimming scene and then the couple kissed, She was disgusted. She felt the couple should have brushed their teeth or something.
So here's the thing...
Rimming is the act of licking/eating out a person's anus. It is something that generally is gay male preferred (sorry, I only am aware personally of gay men in real life enjoying this)(there might be straight people who like it but I've never met any).
So I went to some gay friends and asked "Have you ever kissed someone after rimming them, or been kissed by someone after being rimmed and did you make them clean their mouth first?" I asked multiple men. The answers were the same: kissing after rimming is normal and acceptable.
Nobody rims a dirty asshole. Showers and cleanliness are de rigeur. If a fella smells funkiness down there, no tongues are going to go visiting. Therefore everything is clean, kisses are cool and one should understand the sexual practice before judging it.
I know it's weird that I was bothered by that review. But it just felt so wrong to me because if you don't mind the idea of the sexual practice, understand it before you get upset by an aspect that you're clearly wrong about.
And on a personal note.... ewwwwww to the whole thing anyway. More power and pleasure to those who enjoy it but I'll take a nice vanilla cone for my tongue instead.
Saturday, April 28, 2012
Talking Romance
Our banner reads in part "Talking Romance", so let's talk some Romance.
I've been pondering why I turned to reading romances, other than the guaranteed HEA, and I've decided it's for the heroes. Romance heroes know all about the BIG GESTURE. Or even the small gesture. They routinely do things that would have a modern day, real life male going "WTF, you're kidding, right?"
I always turn to romance books when I want the BIG GESTURE - Christian in Flowers from the Storm anyone? Battling his body's weaknesses to fight for the woman he loves - I come all over funny as the saying goes everytime I read it and just melt.
And at the other end of the pendulum - Curran in the Magic books feeding his potential mate and all the meaning behind it. Doesn't matter that Kate's furious because I know that deep down inside she's entranced and fascinated and well on her way to falling in love.
So, I've made a partial list of real life romantic gestures that might go unnoticed in all the hurly burly of day to day living. They might not even be considered romantic. They're mostly all small gestures, but then it's not the size of the gesture that counts. Heh.
* If he fills up your car unasked because he knows the pumps hate you ... he might be a romantic.
* If he eats peas you've sugared instead of salted without complaint ... he might be a romantic.
* If he listens to you vent about your horrible day, then hugs you and takes you to bed ... he might be a romantic.
* If he rubs your back or feet without being asked ... he might be a romantic (and hoping to get lucky too, lol).
* If he's a good husband, father and lover and follows the 'look but never touch' rule ... he might be a romantic. He for sure has his priorities straight.
My brain is stretched. Or perhaps that's empty. Can you all think of any others? Some of these have happened to me, the rest I made up. But I want to make it plain: I have never sugared any peas!
I've been pondering why I turned to reading romances, other than the guaranteed HEA, and I've decided it's for the heroes. Romance heroes know all about the BIG GESTURE. Or even the small gesture. They routinely do things that would have a modern day, real life male going "WTF, you're kidding, right?"
I always turn to romance books when I want the BIG GESTURE - Christian in Flowers from the Storm anyone? Battling his body's weaknesses to fight for the woman he loves - I come all over funny as the saying goes everytime I read it and just melt.
And at the other end of the pendulum - Curran in the Magic books feeding his potential mate and all the meaning behind it. Doesn't matter that Kate's furious because I know that deep down inside she's entranced and fascinated and well on her way to falling in love.
So, I've made a partial list of real life romantic gestures that might go unnoticed in all the hurly burly of day to day living. They might not even be considered romantic. They're mostly all small gestures, but then it's not the size of the gesture that counts. Heh.
* If he fills up your car unasked because he knows the pumps hate you ... he might be a romantic.
* If he eats peas you've sugared instead of salted without complaint ... he might be a romantic.
* If he listens to you vent about your horrible day, then hugs you and takes you to bed ... he might be a romantic.
* If he rubs your back or feet without being asked ... he might be a romantic (and hoping to get lucky too, lol).
* If he's a good husband, father and lover and follows the 'look but never touch' rule ... he might be a romantic. He for sure has his priorities straight.
My brain is stretched. Or perhaps that's empty. Can you all think of any others? Some of these have happened to me, the rest I made up. But I want to make it plain: I have never sugared any peas!
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Let the Story Do the Talking
I'm having a wonderful time with my newest WIP (work in progress). It's not writing as fast as I wish but then my strange need to play agame of Free Cell after every 50 - 100 words might have something to do with it. Also the fact that my daughter needs help with her homework, someone has to do the dishes and Survivor is on and I never miss Survivor (sorry Lea, my addiction is not a reflection of anything but my addiction to that one show).
However, the one thing I'm adoring about this book is that it has a story to tell and it's telling it the way it should be told. Does that make any sense? Well probably not put that way.
I do realize that I'm writing the story and it's not some strange automatic writing through spirit or whatever. Considering the amount of editing going on, the automatic writing would be very welcome on this story.
But the thing is... the story has a rhythm in a sense, a map of sorts to get from point a (boy meets girl) to point z (boy and girl in love and happy). So as I write, things suddenly seem very clear in the progression 'why look, here's where the brother shows up' to the sudden ''I think they're about to make love' and it feels like the story is making the decisions and not me.
I was trying to get a sense why it felt that way and thought that perhaps its because I've read so many books and the rhythm of the stories have made their way into my writer's conscience. So the natural flow of the story is just that: natural.
It's one of the first times I've ever had a story that needs so little telling because it has the path of how to be told. I love love love writing it.
However, the one thing I'm adoring about this book is that it has a story to tell and it's telling it the way it should be told. Does that make any sense? Well probably not put that way.
I do realize that I'm writing the story and it's not some strange automatic writing through spirit or whatever. Considering the amount of editing going on, the automatic writing would be very welcome on this story.
But the thing is... the story has a rhythm in a sense, a map of sorts to get from point a (boy meets girl) to point z (boy and girl in love and happy). So as I write, things suddenly seem very clear in the progression 'why look, here's where the brother shows up' to the sudden ''I think they're about to make love' and it feels like the story is making the decisions and not me.
I was trying to get a sense why it felt that way and thought that perhaps its because I've read so many books and the rhythm of the stories have made their way into my writer's conscience. So the natural flow of the story is just that: natural.
It's one of the first times I've ever had a story that needs so little telling because it has the path of how to be told. I love love love writing it.
Monday, April 23, 2012
First Page Wreck
This weekend on dear Author was a First Page that was a study in OMG! First Page is done every saturday morning when an anonymous author puts up a first page of a WIP and the DA community comments on it. The idea is to offer critique and help an author make it better.
Saturday's page was a disaster. The author didn't know the fundamentals of writing so the punctuation was a mess, attribution a mess and the story just didn't work for a million reasons.
Does that mean the writer cannot write? No. It means the first page was a mess. It doesn't mean the writer is illiterate, a non English speaker, short, funny looking, or any of the other choices that were offered by the readers.
It was a serious disaster to read the comments because the level of assumption was appalling. I mean instead of critiquing the writing, the readers were critiquing the author instead without any idea of who the writer was.
Did I make an assumption? I did. I assumed that the writer is young, possibly high school or junior high. Am I right? no freaking idea. I sure as hell didn't think it was appropriate to assume on the author's piece of writing.
People were crazy rude in their critiques and it was an embarrassment to read. I felt terrible for the author to have to read all that was said and assumed.
Saturday's page was a disaster. The author didn't know the fundamentals of writing so the punctuation was a mess, attribution a mess and the story just didn't work for a million reasons.
Does that mean the writer cannot write? No. It means the first page was a mess. It doesn't mean the writer is illiterate, a non English speaker, short, funny looking, or any of the other choices that were offered by the readers.
It was a serious disaster to read the comments because the level of assumption was appalling. I mean instead of critiquing the writing, the readers were critiquing the author instead without any idea of who the writer was.
Did I make an assumption? I did. I assumed that the writer is young, possibly high school or junior high. Am I right? no freaking idea. I sure as hell didn't think it was appropriate to assume on the author's piece of writing.
People were crazy rude in their critiques and it was an embarrassment to read. I felt terrible for the author to have to read all that was said and assumed.
Saturday, April 21, 2012
The Witness
I'm reading Nora Robert's newest, The Witness. I'm about 50% into it, and I'm reading with tears in my eyes. I love this heroine. I want to hug her. She's so needy and she doesn't know it. Her strength covers it up.
When his arms came around her, she squeezed her eyes shut and the emotions rose so fast, so hard and fast. To be held like this on a cool spring night by someone who cared.
It was like a miracle, even for someone who didn't believe in them.I'll post again when I finish the book, but I had to share this excerpt because, you see, I never cry
Friday, April 20, 2012
Random Friday Nonsense
1. Have you ever had sex in a swimming pool? I've had sex in a hot tub and that was no big whoop but I'm writing pool sex right now and I'm not sure it's really do-able. Any ideas?
2. A group I belong to is on a rant about Dear Author and their mean reviews. I don't think they're mean but then again I'm a snarky bitch. Does anyone out there find them especially mean?
3. I'm writing a book and my libido is starting to go into overdrive. I wonder if writing and menopause should be banned from being experienced together.
4. I've stopped cooking. Quel horror. Someone send me a new recipe I must try!
5. I lost my thumb drive (he was in the shape of a ninja and I called him my ninja drive). I had one novella on there that I have nowhere else. I feel fucked. And not in the good, gonna do it in a pool with my hero kind of way.
6. Hi Lea ::waving::
2. A group I belong to is on a rant about Dear Author and their mean reviews. I don't think they're mean but then again I'm a snarky bitch. Does anyone out there find them especially mean?
3. I'm writing a book and my libido is starting to go into overdrive. I wonder if writing and menopause should be banned from being experienced together.
4. I've stopped cooking. Quel horror. Someone send me a new recipe I must try!
5. I lost my thumb drive (he was in the shape of a ninja and I called him my ninja drive). I had one novella on there that I have nowhere else. I feel fucked. And not in the good, gonna do it in a pool with my hero kind of way.
6. Hi Lea ::waving::
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