So Kim Kardashian posted a nude picture of herself on Instagram and the world has gone wild. The comments pile up fast and furious: she's a ho, she's awesome, she's famous for her body, she's a step backwards for women.
So what is it?
I can't help but be a little revolted by Kim K because she's famous for nothing. She has millions of followers because... of nothing. She's actually quite boring and doesn't seem like someone I'd want to hang around but that's just me. I'd rather be here and talking books and romance with all of you.
But I don't think that Kim K posting a nude selfie is a bad thing. I don't think that a woman getting famous for a sex tape is a bad thing. I know she's not going to influence my daughter to do the same and I don't think anyone I know wants to be like her. And she doesn't set women backwards in any way, nor does Jimmy Thomas set men back by being a romance cover model or George Clooney for looking like a romance cover model.
Women's rights and celebrations can include the celebration of our bodies. Boobs and butts and enjoying them are a part of what feminists have fought for. Kim K should be just as appreciated for being naked and beautiful as any feminist. She's choosing for herself and not for womankind and isn't that what feminism is all about?
It's funny but men never slut shame other men. Men don't seem to give a shit what another man does with his body... are women so afraid that they can be negated as people because some woman likes to show her booty?
We were discussing this at dinner and all of us agreed that the biggest influence on a young woman isn't Kim K posing nude but rather her mother choosing to live a life that influences her. I know my daughter's choices are usually good ones because we talk and I know where her head is at. I know some of her friends are making terrible choices because their mothers aren't listening or just don't care.
So I'll give a thumbs up to Kim K for her butt and boobs and enjoyment in showing them off. And for Bette Midler and Pink and the other women who are saying she's a bad influence on young women: don't worry about Kim K. Worry about the women who are absent from their children emotionally because those are the ones who are hurting the young women. Trust me on this one: I'm learning it first hand.
All of this, yes. A thousand times.
ReplyDeleteI'm linking this to FB because you nailed it, darlin'.
ReplyDeleteI'm amazed by the intelligence and talent of some of the young women Mollie is friends with but I'm heartbroken at how absent their mothers are. Parents are there every day but they don't seem to be aware that their kids are failing, having sex (at 14!!!) and making choices that are killing me.
ReplyDeleteIt's bad when Mollie is asking me to intervene with kids I barely know because someone has to tell them to stop and think.
Anything concerning the Kardashians I scroll past - I just don't give a feck... I'm tired of hearing about them quite frankly and like you Lori, I want to know why they are famous?
ReplyDeleteThey have a reality show but who decided they were interesting enough to give one to and why? It's not like they cured cancer, were actors or singers or even anyone else with something worth watching. Now millions around the world can't get enough of them and their antics.
It is sad when you have to intervene like that Lori. Makes you wonder why people have kids when they can't be present enough to actually care about them or hteir future. Waiting until they are off the rails and heading down a dark path or in trouble just doesn't and shouldn't cut it.
You're doing a great job with Miss Mollie and she is growing into a wonderful human being. Her friends are lucky to have someone like you in their lives, even if it's only so they can see that some parents DO care.
:)