Buh Bye You Fucking Weird Year

 

So long 2021.

I can spend another post being pissy and upset and hating the world. That's pretty easy, actually. But trying to get any excitement for 2022... yeah, that's a no.

I figured the least I could do is try to change my headspace for the New Year. Realized that wouldn't quite work either. But whatever...

So between the time writing that last paragraph and writing this one, 2021 had one more surprise for me. My part time (30 hours a week) job became full time if I wanted it which I do. That's 20 hours of pay I needed desperately and have been looking for in a second job. Now I can get my finances back on track. 

Thank God.

So todays is New Years Eve and I plan to play video games with my daughter and do laundry and start super-cleaning and super-organizing my apartment. I might be starting 2022 off with a disbelief in goodness but I will start the year off clean and organized. Gonna Marie Kondo myself into a stupor.

Everybody stay safe out there because people are assholes. Omicron is kicking butts. People are drunk and driving. Please stay safe.

Happy new year!!   Have fun seeing this dumpster fire leaving our lives!

Happy New Year

 

Boy, would I like to say something inspiring and hopeful.

Fuck 2022. Fuck Happy and fuck the idea of anything new. It's all going to be the same shit with new dates. More Corona. More inept politicians keeping this earth barreling toward its end. More freedom loving idiots who would welcome death over keeping their neighbors safe.

Fuck America and Americans. 

Love you guys but hate most of the rest of the world.

Happy fucking new year.

Arcane on Netflix

 

Mollie: Mom, watch Arcane on Netflix.

Me: What's Arcane?

Mollie: It's an animated series and it's so good.

Me: Nope. I don't do animation, except maybe Animaniacs because well, Dot is sooo cute.

Mollie: I promise everyone in this show is hot as fuck, interesting, layered and it's a mind explosion.

Lori: watches one episode.  Okay, that sucked.

Mollie: eyes roll so hard in her head that she has to sleep for a week.  Keep watching. It gets better and by the third episode you'll love it.

Lori: big sigh  Okay, back to the boy and his little sister.

Mollie: What boy? That's a girl. 

Lori: Oh damn. I thought that was a boy.

Mollie: eyes roll around so hard and consistently that she is only saved by eating convenience store meals for two days and sleeping in class.

Lori: watches episode 2 slowly and then episode three. Something awful happens. Something worse happens. Then the episode ends and Lori is shaken to her core.  That was... holy fuck!

Mollie: I knew you'd like it. So can we...

Lori: Hush child. I need to watch the next episode. I got no time for you.

Mollie: Link me in through Netflix Party and I'll watch with you.

Lori and Mollie:      

With Great Rain Comes Great Wetness

 Holy shit, it rains a lot in Hilo!

This is 3 minutes away from where I live. (This is an older image but holy beer guzzling redneck Christ! it feels like what's going on right now).

I haven't left my apartment in 3 days because it's relentless. I can't even check my mail because I'll have to swim to get to the mailbox.

I want to buy groceries but I refuse to go outside.

Can someone send an ark to rescue me?

You Light Up My Life

 

Years ago I saw this chandelier online and I saved it on Pinterest on my dream home board. This picture does not show it in all its glory with the dangling pieces and the colors and all. Anyway, after moving to Hawaii and living in someone else's home, I wanted something that expressed me in my room and I found this beauty on Amazon. Affordable and so gorgeous.

Moving into my apartment I discovered that there are no ceiling light fixtures. I can't use my chandelier. I was sad but ah well, life changes. I decided I'd sell it and move on.

But then I got it here and started cleaning it and all the wonderful feelings it evokes were still there. But I can't use it. So I listed it. But I keep looking at it and thinking how good it would look with the colors I'm bringing into my rooms. So I texted my brother and asked if we can somehow turn it into a plug in lamp and hang it? And he said we'll make it happen.

And I'm so happy. Because for the first time in a very long time (which might be ever) I have a style. An honest to God actual style which makes me comfortable and happy and expresses my heart: Bohemian. I love the colors and the layered textures and the riot of pattern. 

It's expressed everywhere I look. My bedroom is already coming together with colors and patterns. And my chandelier once it's hung, will draw so much of the living room into it. The bright yellows, the pillows I plan to make.

Oh yeah... I need to make pillow covers and curtains. My entire being is screaming for color. And how can I not keep the chandelier that is the centerpiece for my expressing me? 

Rest In Piece, You Glorious Baritone

 

Please overlook the tears. 

This is Carlos. The baritone of Il Divo, the cheesy showman who honestly twinkled and could sing the panties right off the front row. He was how Carolyn and I met. He was the catalyst in my life from "I'd really like to be a writer" to "I just wrote a 60,000+ word story called The Cheeky Spaniard all about Carlos."

Carlos Marin. The little Caruso. 

I don't even listen to Il Divo anymore. I listen to K-Pop and women singers. The only Il Divo still in my life is Carolyn's ringtone. But I followed on social media. I forwarded occasionally to my friend. And no matter what, it was Carlos who inspired me to write the damned book instead of just wish I could.

He was vaccinated but Covid didn't care. It got into those beautiful lungs and killed him. 

All my love, Carlos. Thank you for the dreams.

New Friends

 I made a new friend yesterday. I've known her my entire life and have had a love/hate relationship, mostly hate. But as I looked at her yesterday, really looked at her, I realized I didn't want to give her anything but love anymore.

Avoiding mirrors is like an Olympic sport for fat girls. Who wants to face the double chin, the belly rolls (sounds like a dance move) (or a pastry: I'll have a belly roll please with strawberry jam). And age makes it even harder because I've avoided really looking at myself so studiously that now my own face is a little bit of a stranger to me.

And yesterday I looked. I really, truly looked. And I talked to her. It was time to treat that woman in the mirror with more love, more acceptance and understanding. Time to stop seeing her as a failure and recognize that she's worked hard her whole life and done her best. She's failed but she's also succeeded. She has resilience out the ass. Life has flattened her multiple times but she's always gotten back up and kept on her way.

And she is well loved. She has had an abundance of love from friends and oh! those friends. We have had some serious laughs and shared some hard tears.(I got my Christmas cards out yesterday and not only did I use the whole box up but it felt so good to reach out to women all over the world and say 'I'm thinking of you'.

What a blessed life me and that lady in the mirror have had. And we had a daughter we would live and die for. And that daughter, that star, that person who radiates from the love she's been given -- she loves me too! We are each other's number ones. I'm so well loved by that girl that I'm humbled and reborn by it.

So that woman I started talking to yesterday, she's all these wonderful things that I admire. She's strong, she's a fighter, she is loved and maybe finally, she's learning her own worth. I might really learn to like that old gal. And if I'm lucky, we might learn to love each other too.