Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Writing Smexy

I'm working on two different stories and yesterday I was in the same place on both: at a love scene. In both stories the sex is an important part of the relationship: in the contemporary the H/h spar but they come together with heat and humor.

In the erotic romance they'll be using sex as a way to break down barriers between themselves and the world. The sexual encounters between them must advance the story and emotional arc.

I love writing sex but I hate writing sex at the same time. There's nothing more tedious than penis in vagina but ultimately, that's what sex is, right? Although there are a few other places the penis can go but you know what I mean.

So how does a writer convey heat and passion and all the great things that exist in the encounter but not have it sound like a sex manual?

What are some of the best sex scenes you've read and why?


  1. I'll have to think on that some... Can I get back to ya? :)

    I myself hate to write it too. I'm more about the lead up to teh act than the act itself. Sometimes the lead up is sexier than the sex, if you know what I mean. As you say, it's just putting tab A into slot B...

    Come to think of it, I don't know that I've actually read any standout 'lurve' scenes. Maybe I need to start reading some romances instead of the crime stuff lol.

  2. I usually hold up the sex scenes in The Shadow and the Star as the best in the genre. I can't remember if Kinsale describes much of the actual physical action at all, it's all in their heads and it's amazing.

  3. Lori, we have that book ... ;-)

  4. Thank you Carolyn. I shall be seeking out the sex scenes this weekend.