Wednesday, February 12, 2020

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA

Okay, I just got this book and my mind is being blown on every page, and I’m only a few chapters in but I know it’s going to be one of those books I’ll read again and again because it makes total sense and it really will improve your life!

I first heard about the book from Smart Bitches, Trashy Books. They were talking about how much they were looking forward to reading it. I put it on my Amazon Wish List and have just waited for it to come out in paperback.

So let me explain something about self-help books (my opinion only): if you’re open to it and the author isn’t a complete idiot then most likely you’ll find something that resonates with you. Then again you can find it anywhere. So a self-help book is a nebulous creature, more than able to nothing but sound-bites with no substance or something with complete substance that rocks you while you read it.

Burnout is rocking me because it’s not really about the things that stress us out, after all, life is nothing but stress upon stress. Finances constantly stress me, the sad state of my knees, my daughter being so far away, politics, work… the list goes on. And these are not miracle workers with miracle cures. After all, let’s be completely honest: some stresses resolve while others are with us always.

Burnout is about what happens to your body when stress gets involved. The muscles tightening, the adrenaline running and every part of you ready for flight or fight. We can live with stressors, we can’t survive the stress reactions in our body.
I’m only about a quarter through the book but I’m shook on every page. I feel like this is the right book for most women who feel overwhelmed by being superwoman, who wake up every morning and want to stay in bed because there’s so much to do, and who can’t sleep because of the lists and problems that keep her eyes open and her brow creased.

Carolyn told me to write as I progress through the book. I might. But I can tell you right now this book is a serious keeper.

3 comments:

  1. Sounds like I need to add this to my list but actually read it... Look forward to your progress report :)

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  2. Me too!

    I guess stressors are relative, depending on your personality. Does she delve into this, Lori?

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    1. The book doesn't really get into the stressors like that. Everyone has different things and then there are the societal stresses of being imperfect in comparison of what all media says you should be. The book is really about seeing it with eyes wide open and understanding how you can live your life without the weight of all that dragging you down.

      What's killing me right now is that I'm loving the hell out of this book and now I lost it!! I was reading it at breakfast and now I can't find it anywhere. It just poofed into thin air. Now that's stress!

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